Most of us will reach a point where we are frustrated with our lives. Perhaps things haven’t turned out as well as we thought they would. Or worse, things turned out better than we planned, but it isn’t as satisfying as we thought it would be. Sometimes this can feel like a quiet frustration–almost a sense of simmering desperation. Things just don’t feel right. There is no sense of balance or contentment.
Other times we can be overwhelmed by everything around us. We might be overstretched at work, or swamped by everything we need to do once we get home. Regardless of the situation, many of us will reach that place where the only thing we want to do is reinvent ourselves–I know I did. The problem is that we are afraid to change or simply just don’t know how to start the process.
We’ve all tried to change something in our lives. It might be our weight, or the amount of time we watch TV, or how much money we spend. And if you’re like most people, you might try for a while and see some progress, but then life gets in the way and you lose focus. The weight comes back, you end up back on the couch at night, or you spend more than you expected. It’s all because you don’t have a plan and you are trying to do it on your own.
If you have reached a place where you feel the need to reinvent yourself but just don’t know if you can do it, here is a seven step guideline that will help you make the right changes. Better yet, it will show you how to make those changes stick and become a permanent part of your life.
- Clarify The Problem: Many people think changing one thing will solve their problem, but that thing may be an indication of another problem. For example, you might want to watch less TV. The real problem may be a need to feel more creative and productive.
- Identify The Root Cause: Once you clarify the real problem, you can explore the causes for it. You might be feeling the need for more creativity because your job is boring you to tears and being more creative at home will balance that.
- Picture Your Solution: Create a mental picture of what a more creative life will look like to you. Or write it down. Get specific and detailed–make it a living, breathing thing.
- Create a Step-by-Step Plan: Very few people can reach a destination without a roadmap. Develop a framework for action that you will need to take to make your solution a reality.
- Engage Your Tribe: Making changes in your life is a big, fat, hairy, scary deal. Don’t go it alone. Surround yourself with people who understand what you what to do and will support you in your journey. Lose the negative people and the ones who want to see you stay safe where you are.
- Get Emotional: We all have emotional reactions to change. If we don’t recognize and understand them, it can be hard to manage them. However, if we don’t manage them, they can manage us and derail all our plans. Get in touch with your emotions and recognize them for what they are–emotions, not reality.
- Stay Present: Many of us fail in change attempts because we listen to the voices in our head telling us why it won’t work. Or we pay attention to secondary issues and avoid what is important Being more mindful–or staying in the moment–keeps us focused on our goals and contributes to a positive mindset.
Reinventing yourself is never easy. But it is possible. Using this framework can help you get where you want to go. Let me know what you think about it. I’d love to hear your thoughts.